Infidelity, Cheating & Affairs

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Affairs & Infidelity have been happening for ages in all types of relationships. It doesn’t discriminate based on era, age, gender or race. However, because of technology, some say cheating has become so much easier. Likely due to the fact that in the past people were limited to the opportunities directly in front of them. In today’s society the ability to cheat is so much easier with the invention of the internet. Now there are so many possible avenues with dating sites,  apps, cheating  or hook up sites, and internet pornography that can be available to someone in the blink of an eye. Individuals no longer have to worry about proximity to cheat with, now they can find someone or something anywhere across the globe.

Struggling managing in a relationship suffering from a current or past affair?

Why would someone cheat?

There are many different reasons why a partner may cheat. There are some standard reasons why people may cheat, and these probably have not changed much throughout time. Some well know reasons some may cheat or factors that may be happening within a relationship that could increase the risk of a partner having an affair could include:

  • Boredom
  • Aging
  • Revenge
  • Lack of Commitment
  • Feeling Unappreciated
  • Unhappiness

What are the risk factors to becoming a cheater?

Looking deeper into individual risk factors can also shed some light to someone’s cheating behavior. There are several individual factors that can, but not always, contribute to cheating or that may increase their chances of being unfaithful.

  • If someone has grown up in an unloving household, where their own parents do not show or display a healthy relationship. Parents are the first example kids receive of what a good marriage/relationship looks like, so if the role models are not setting good examples, kids can carry thins throughout life and their own relationships. Specifically, if a parent themselves cheats, a child can be more than two times more likely to cheat in their own marriages.
  • Unresolved past traumas, such as physical, emotional or sexual abuse can shape a person’s brain to react to intimacy and a loving relationship different than those without past abuse. An individual’s attachment style in itself can be changed and altered through this trauma. Of course, with help from a therapist or counselor these issues can be resolved and not continue to affect the individual or the relationship. 
  • Psychological issues such as certain personality disorders and low self-esteem can also contribute to someone cheating. Someone who is diagnosed as having Bipolar disorder or Narcissistic traits or personality disorder are at a higher rate to engage in affairs and cheating behavior. Individuals may struggle with being self-centered and a lack of empathy for their actions. Individuals with low self-esteem may be drawn to outside attention to help themselves feel good about themselves or the illusion of it.

Can you reverse the trend?

While some research shows that the old saying “once a cheater, always a cheater”. It should be noted that with hard work and self-discovery through counseling and therapy, it is totally possible to avoid cheating or having an affair in the future. Reach out to Megan Corrieri for a free 15 minute consultation if you would like to discuss your situation personally. 

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